Everyone feels lost at times. A mid-life crisis is very common. It is not a clinical disorder, but it is a significant life transition. If not addressed properly it could lead to more serious issues such as anxiety and depression.
Feeling lost is natural and ought to be deemed to be an opportunity, not something to be feared, but embraced.
First, why do we feel lost? The simple answer is that you don’t connect with yourself. What you are doing doesn’t connect with who you are.
The hard part is understanding who you are.
This is the essence and core responsible for what you do and why.
When what you do and why you do it is aligned with who you are, you feel aligned and connected. You are not lost. You are on the right path.
So who are you? Are you your role, a husband, a wife, a child or your job, an accountant, attorney, student?
Are you who others think you should be? Do you act as others expect you to or how you want to?
If you try to be everything to everyone you will have no focus, you will lack clarity, you will encounter conflicts of interest.
If you are not striving to be you, but someone others think you should be, you can’t be satisfied or fulfilled, because you don’t have what you want.
To find clarity you need to slow down and consider yourself.
Who are you? What brings you joy? When are you happy?
Sure it is fine to eliminate what is bad, but being 100% successful in eliminating negatives lands you at neutral. Don’t you want more than that?
Who you are and who you want to be are not often one and the same. Recognizing who you are and who you want to become is the key to aligning these two beings.
This is how you relieve the sense of feeling lost. You develop a plan to navigate from here to there.
Having a coach is a way to help you define yourself and form a plan and then assist you in navigating the journey to become the person you want to be.
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